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Whether it ends with a bang or a whimper, breaking up is a difficult time in life. In fact, a study done by some Columbia neuroscientists points to the fact that going through a break up triggers the same regions of the brain that react to physical pain. The result of that is not stronger men, but men afflicted with the effects of not intentionally feeling, ing for, and dealing with, this type of emotional pain.
What we can do is hit the most important points to get you going on your path toward healing and normalcy based on our own experiences here at Primer. But what happens when the emotions come flooding so fast it overwhelms that instinct? Allow yourself to feel betrayed. Why do you think you feel that way?
Writing it down can be a surprisingly clarifying way to work on this. Alcohol, drugs, workaholism, and serial dating are in-the-moment distractions that will prolong the pain. Whether or not you have a tendency to lean on substances for release, the loss of a love is incredibly stressful, and you will need help to get through it. A good therapist will help you work out a path forward and uncover any stumbling blocks that might keep you from getting closure.
They will be a sounding board and a dose of reality in a way that your friends and family might not be. In-person therapy is the best, if you can afford it money and time-wise. You can find therapists in your area by visiting Psychology Today. School counselors, pastors, non-family mentors, or meditation teachers are all good choices. Just remember that these people are not trained professionals, so you still need to take any advice they give you with a grain of salt.
Decades of romantic movie plots have incorrectly taught us that pretty much all break-ups warrant some sort of go-for-broke romantic gesture to try to initiate getting back together. Desperate is bad because, whether your former partner understands it consciously or not, it represents a lack of understanding of the issues that caused the relationship to end. The Hail Mary is a move someone makes to distract their ex from the fact that nothing has changed.
Even if you get your foot back in the door after popping out of a giant gift box with roses promising everything will be different now I swearthe two of you will find yourselves in the exact same place you were when you broke up because the real issues were not reconciled by the distraction. What can you do…eventually? But this will require some time to create space and doing the difficult emotional work on your end first so that real, positive change is possible.
Another post-break-up minefield is divvying up the mutual friends, who are the equity built up over a long-term relationship. Certain cases should be obvious. For example, the friends each member of the former couple brought to the relationship generally side with their original friend. Let it happen. But what if there are already social engagements involving mutual friends? Good question.
Break ups are super personal, and also super universal. Any time of disruption releases a lot of energy. Break ups contain an opportunity to jump forward in your personal growth in a way that you might not have access to during normal life. Maybe you want to do some volunteering, or start playing guitar, or lose 15 lbsor take a step toward moving your career forward.
Take advantage of the disruption forced on you. Start by planning steps for what you want in your career, family, hobbies, and personal life. Take an honest look at what worked and what definitely did not work. Use your failed relationship to make you better at relationships. At a certain point, you may pass the point of healthy exploration of your old relationship and get into obsessive territory.
Host a screening of all the LOTR films back to back. Play video games, surprise your parents with a visit, listen to a surprisingly excellent podcast about Dolly Parton. Do whatever it takes to get yourself out of the endless cycle of thinking about the breakup. None of these activities need to be undertaken in a spiteful way.
But being single can be a great time to reconnect with the people who have seen you through thick and thin. When was the last time you planned a trip without considering what anyone else wanted? Plan it out, book a hotel room for a few nights and hit the road. See some sites, eat some good food, get a barber shave, go for a hike, chat up some locals, make some new memories.
So much of a relationship is about two individuals becoming a unit. It will be difficult at times, but there are ways to enable yourself to not just cope, but actually thrive under these new life circumstances. He lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Few life events can cause as much upheaval and pain as a relationship ending with someone you cared about. Friends are one of the most important parts of a fulfilling life — why do so many men find themselves without any real ones? The reason we get stuck in style ruts.
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